You, Me, and the Algorithm: A Love Story Gone Wrong

You, Me, and the Algorithm: A Love Story Gone Wrong

I’ve noticed something strange lately. It’s not political, it’s not generational; it’s behavioral.

We’ve all been given access to artificial intelligence, and instead of using it to learn more, a lot of people are using it to confirm what they already believe. It’s like handing someone the Library of Alexandria and watching them go straight to the self-help aisle to find a quote that validates their opinion on oat milk.

The Illusion of Awareness

We live in a world that feels like awareness: scrolling headlines, listening to podcasts, watching “breaking news.” But most of it isn’t awareness at all. It’s reinforcement.

Your feeds are trained to know you better than you know yourself. Your credit card activity, your search history, even the shows you fall asleep to (those data points become your digital DNA). And then? The algorithm uses that DNA to curate your entire reality.

So if you buy a certain brand of protein powder or start Googling “gut health,” the universe of your phone will quietly decide that you’re the “wellness” type. Next thing you know, every ad, every influencer, every recommendation (from your TV to your kid’s iPad) will echo that back to you. It’s The Truman Show, except this time, you asked for it.

How to Escape the Bubble (Sort Of)

If you want to know how deep your bubble goes, here’s an easy test: Flip to the opposite news channel from whatever you usually watch.

If you’re a CNN person, watch Fox for an hour. If you’re a Fox person, turn on MSNBC. If you don’t watch TV at all, congratulations, you’ve already broken the first layer of programming.

Then don’t react. Observe. Listen to the tone, the framing, the emotional hooks. Notice what’s emphasized and what’s conveniently left out. It’s like walking into a funhouse mirror maze of the same story told twenty different ways.

Why It Matters

Because here’s the scary part: AI is now powerful enough to do the same thing, but faster, cleaner, and without you even noticing. You can literally ask it to tell you why your side is right, and it will politely oblige. Over and over again, until curiosity dies.

We’re creating perfect, frictionless worlds where we never have to be wrong again. And that’s how awareness dies, not with censorship, but with comfort.

The Challenge

So try this: Next time you use AI, open your phone, or read the news, ask it a question that threatens your worldview. Ask it to explain the other side. Ask it to make you uncomfortable.

You don’t have to agree with what you find. You just have to be curious enough to look.

Because that, my friends, is the only kind of intelligence still worth having.

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